Hefner’s philosophy admittedly differed from the mainstream heterosexuality of the 1950s — but only in the sense that it was built to better privilege straight men. As Barbara Ehrenreich detailed in her book The Hearts of Men, before Playboy, bachelors were seen as losers who couldn’t get wives of their own. (They were also suspected of being gay, as the implications around the phrase “confirmed bachelor” still attest.) Hefner changed the public perception of single men, turning them into swinging (hetero) sex gods having adventures that poor henpecked married men could only dream of. This idea is still with us today — if you’ve ever seen an episode of Entourage or read a pick-up artist’s blog, you’ve reaped the benefits of Hefner’s work. But the change was never meant to make sex more fulfilling for women, or even queer men. Far from it.
[…] In the pre-Playboy variety of sexism, women were children who had to be taken care of and disciplined by their husbands. In the new, “radical” Playboy philosophy, women were sour, scolding mommies to be rebelled against or hot commodities to be acquired. This split between conservative misogyny and hip, “liberal” misogyny is still with us, and still expressed in much the same terms. But Hefner never challenged the sexism at the heart of the social order — he just wanted to remove any responsibility men might bear to the women they slept with, and make sure men’s experience of sex was consequence-free. His revolution re-arranged the surface, but left the underlying structure of patriarchy intact.
I wanna throw something when people are like, “don’t go into this career to make money! It has to be about passion.”
Bitch
I’m passionate about not fucking starving. I’m passionate about keeping a roof over my head. I’m passionate about paying my bills in order, on time.
I’m not passionate about this faux martyr bullshit because I have to prove “I’m not in it for the money”
I will never volunteer my talents for some purity pressure bullshit
This.
Just because you are in a profession where passion is important or a “caring” profession doesn’t mean you do not deserve to be compensated in a manner commensurate with your skill and your labor. It is still work. You are still working, no matter how spiritually fulfilling the work is. In order to keep doing this passionate work well, you need to be able to afford adequate housing, to feed yourself properly, to enjoy life outside of your job. People throw around the “for love not money” argument to justify paying those of us in these fields as little as is legally possible as if love is some kind of currency, and an overabundance of love somehow makes up for physical poverty. It does not. It. Does. Not.
Also, when you don’t compensate caring professionals adequately, true caring professionals are driven out of their fields because they cannot do their jobs at the level (with the devotion, emotion and intensity) that they believe they should be done and maintain their health, well-being and safety. When that happens, the field becomes flooded with people who do NOT care, but want an easy paycheck. Many “caring” jobs require little training/education–the entry bar is low.
This is how you get nursing assistants who will allow elderly patients to sit in their own waste for hours. This is how you get medical assistants who treat patients like an inconvenience and fail to document information properly, leading to improper care. This is how you get people who are in it for the money, not the passion.
And in fields like education, standards for credentialing are being lowered to allow entry by people with no training at all, just job experience in a related field. These are often people who were downsized or terminated from their jobs, who have no passion or aptitude for teaching but who want the paycheck and benefits the field offers (and “summers off”). Any decent teacher will tell you teachers don’t have summers off. We work, plan, keep up with developments in the field. We don’t get paid during the summer. This is how you get teachers who don’t know how to differentiate or care why it is done, who view all behavior issues as disobedience/criminality, who view struggles as laziness, who don’t care if their students learn or understand anything and can’t tell if they do. This is how you get paraprofessionals who don’t take care of dependent students, who spend class time checking Facebook and actively avoiding students. This is how you get paraprofessionals who bully special education students. Don’t think it happens? It absolutely does. Because the people who love the work can’t afford to do it.
This is how the caring professions are taken over by people who don’t care. They are the only ones who go to these demanding, exhausting jobs, come home and rest easy for minimum wage. Why? Because they don’t do the demanding, exhausting work. They do the absolute bare minimum, and because competent staff cannot be hired, they are never held accountable for it.
Caring professionals are not martyrs. We want to be able to continue to do the work we do. We cannot do that if we don’t make enough to take care of ourselves and our families. If we are not offered decent benefits to tend to the health problems that inevitably arise from pushing beyond your limits every day, if we are not allowed to recover and rejoice in our own lives. If you don’t care about that, then you do not care about the patients, children, friends, loved ones in our care.
me, woke: “unless the feminist movement is able to accept an understanding of lesbianism that fully believes that lesbian oppression and compulsory heterosexuality hurt all women by limiting their possible visions for their own lives, then we will not survive -Sarah Shulman, 1982″
hey quick question why are all adult cartoons like that
like why is it that adult cartoons could build upon this beautiful format for storytelling used in children’s cartoons to deliver more complex, powerful narratives and include themes with more depth and comedy that adults can relate to, but instead it means “hey here’s an array of every nasty vile bigoted thing u can think of drawn in the most tedious ugly obnoxious art style” like why did we go so wrong..
Like… the intention is good, but I don’t know how I feel about the angle of “you shouldn’t bully someone because you may not know the whole story”. You shouldn’t bully because it’s fucked up.
That girl you called fat, maybe she’s NOT starving herself. Maybe she just likes to eat. You want to call her names because of that? Fuck you.
That girl you called a slut, maybe she’s not a virgin, maybe she’s had a lot of sex with different people, sex is fucking AWESOME! Your hang ups with women and sexuality is not her problem. You’re an asshole.
That boy you pushed down in the hall… maybe everything’s great at home for him, so the fuck what? Don’t put your hands on people you piece of shit.
That black girl you teased for her skin color… just, fuck you, period. Doesn’t matter what the fuck is going on in her life, you’re fucking garbage. Get the fuck out of here.
The old man with the scars… seriously? Like… if you’re making fun of an old man’s scars you’re too far gone, you’re some kind of amoral sociopath or something cause that’s just some fucked up shit.
That “gay boy” you made fun of? Go fuck yourself.
The man you made fun of for crying? He just watched the episode of the Office where Jim and Pam get married, so what? Who cares why he’s crying? People have emotions dipshit.
That poor boy? Oh you’re one of those assholes who makes fun of poor people? Go die in a fire.
How about just don’t bully people at all for any reason cause it’s a fucked up thing to do regardless of what you do or don’t know about them? Treat people the way you want to be treated, it’s that simple. We’re all human beings just trying to be happy, you make the world a worse place when you try to stand in the way of that.
I fixed it. :)
Much better
First part, I was OK. THEN THE SECOND PART CAME AND I AM LIKE FUCK YEAH
